Your peace offering may not be accepted, but if you make it you might be surprised. Don’t let pride stand in the way of admitting you’re partly to blame. But remember there are two sides of the story and the other side has some accountability too.
I’ve said before that everyone handles stress and anxiety in different ways. But everyone needs a release. In general people need connections, they need someone to talk to. When communication avenues are closed or blocked, that stress can be compounded. What seems like a little thing to you, could be the last straw to someone else who already has 10 tons on their shoulders.
Yes they are responsible for their own feelings and how they choose to react. But don’t be surprised when they lash out. It maybe all they have left when they can’t take anymore.
Make an attempt to talk to them and resolve the issue. Tell them how you feel and what part of the issue you feel is your responsibility. Don’t place blame, don’t start any sentence with “You did” or “You didn’t”. Rather take control of your own emotions and actions through “I felt like”.
Life isn’t easy. It has ups and downs. How you handle the downs will be the biggest indicator of how you’ll move into the future. If you want to keep your partnership, you’re going to have to admit that some of the blame really is on your shoulders. And all the responsibility for you emotions and how you feel resides with you.
The key to any successful partnership, no matter what kind of relationship it may be, is Respect. Find out if you really are giving that to your partner. Be honest with yourself and truly look within to determine if you’re only telling yourself you are, or not. Correct those areas you don’t feel stand up to your own standard and make your peace offering. Let your weekend begin with compassion and kindness.
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