Strength is shown in the person who can resolve conflict without a fight. Don’t allow others to bait you into an argument that you have no part in, or simply because they are in a bad mood. Assurance can only go so far when trying to alleviate the insecurities others feel. In the end, it’s their issue to deal with. If they don’t trust you, then ask “Can they be trusted?”
What we don’t like about someone else is a reflection of ourselves. Those that have problems with trusting, are often the ones who cannot be trusted. The things they are doing behind your back are the same things they think they see you doing. Even when you’re not.
Don’t allow someone to bait you into an argument where you must defend yourself against something you haven’t done in the first place. It’s a ‘red herring’ for what’s really going on in the first place.
Don’t ignore those warning signs. You can try to assure those close to you that you’re loyal, you care and your trustworthy. But in the end it’s their own insecurities that must be changed and you cannot control that or fix it for them.
It may take today and through the weekend to work it out. But it’s better to put forth the effort now, than to let things fester and grow beneath the surface. Either you’ll find common ground and agree to help each other work it out to make lasting changes on both sides. Or it maybe time to say thank you for the time together and walk away.
© 2012 Springwolf, D.D., Ph.D. Springwolf Reflections / Springs Haven, LLC. All Rights Reserved.