You may receive a surprise today. Be careful that it doesn’t have strings attached. You may not want to pay the price for what, on the surface, looks like a very nice gift. Consider the source and don’t be afraid of saying “no thank you”.
If you want to give a gift, then use your compassion to give it. But don’t put strings or attach restrictions to it. It’s not really a gift that way and it’s not fair to the person you claim to be helping out.
Today people have a great deal of stress and anxiety on their shoulders. You may not know exactly what they’re going through. You might listen to their story, but don’t assume they’re telling you everything there is to know. They could be embarrassed, over burdened or trying to control the emotions they feel in order to “hold it together”.
Not everyone holds the same priorities as you do. It might be more important for someone to spend that $20 gift on gas to get their child to and from school, than it is for the gallon of milk and groceries you intended it to be used for.
Not everyone likes the same things you do. There maybe a few things in that bag of groceries that they don’t like or won’t use. Don’t be offended. You made the effort and that kindness will be rewarded. If not today, then at some other time in this life or the next.
If you’re the one receiving the gift, don’t feel you must bend your priorities to the will of others. If they are giving you something, be gracious and appreciative. But if you feel you can’t accommodate their demands, than say no. There will be other opportunities coming your way. You don’t have to sacrifice your self-worth, or morals to appease the will of others.
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