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A Homily: How Do You Know You’re Healed

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Empowered Healing

The Road To Recovery

Yesterday a fellow Minister asked a question that got me thinking. “How do you personally know that you have transcended a challenging or stressful situation?”

I interpret the question of transcended to mean, when do you know you have overcome the situation where real deep healing can begin and take place? What’s the point where you can forgive, let go and move on to heal yourself from within?

I think it’s different for each person. We all go through Trials, Trauma and Grief in our own way. But the healing process or phases of healing are generally the same regardless of the challenge or situation. Whatever inspires us to move through those phases can be as varied as the number of people on the planet. Real healing isn’t a moment in time, it’s a process that can take years. but it does have an end point of sorts.

I wrote an article many years ago that goes into much greater detail about this process: Dealing With Trials & Grief: Trials, Trauma & Grief (on SpringsHaven.com) in case you’re interested.

Basically the phases can be summed up as:
Shock / Acknowledgement; Denial / Acceptance; Guilt / Depression / Anger; Forgiveness; Hope / Action and Letting Go

When you’ve lived through the struggle and found yourself out the other side, that’s when the real healing begins. How long we spend in each phase of the process is up to the individual. But it can also aide or slow down the overall healing if we rush through or dwell too long in one healing phase. Continue reading

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Today’s Tarot Meditation Drawing: Six of Wands – Inverted

Six of Wands: Inverted

Mystic Faery Tarot by Linda Ravenscroft

Your creative energy can manifest the strangest things, but often times they are exactly what you need at the moment. Your unique humor can cause others to laugh and help them through troubled times, but it also helps you as well. Allow your compassion and frivolity to light the darkness and help others find their way out of the shadows and from under the mushrooms.


Additional Insight:

Your spiritual beliefs and unique humor can often carry you through times of trials and help you to handle change and transition. Share that ability to assist others who do not have the same perspective. Not everyone has that inner strength and many fall into deep depression when troubles occur or a loss is experienced. It doesn’t matter if that change is the loss of a job, relationship, friend, pet or relative. The end of something tangible has equal emotional sorrow as those things that are intangible.

You can aid them in not falling too far into the depths of despair with your tempered humor and compassionate attention. Sometimes looking at the silver lining is equally as important as feeling sorrow and letting it out.

Too much of anything isn’t good for anyone. Holding sadness in can fester and cause more harm than good. Letting sadness rule your life isn’t a positive expression of emotion either. Ensuring that one expresses a balanced approach to their emotions allows one to grieve over things or people lost; and yet still maintain a sense of emotional stability.

It’s never easy losing someone or something that was important to you. But the only real constant in life is that things change. Fight that change and you’ll lose the battle and miss the chance to find love or fulfillment in the future. Accept that things change for a reason and celebrate what they brought to you in your life and you can focus on the good things in life and be open to new lessons and experiences it has to offer you.


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