Archive | February 17, 2012

You Can Only Change Yourself

But That Will Change How Others Respond To You

Introspection & ChangeEveryone knows the adage “You can’t change others” or “You can’t learn lessons for others” when dealing with negative situations. Those wise old sayings come from centuries of experience passed down from one generation to the next. But it seems in our desire to be helpful and show compassion we have to be reminded of their message constantly. If you continue the same patterns of response, you are allowing others to control your emotions and direct your path. They don’t have to change you, because they have the ability to manipulate you through their own actions and your consistent patterns of response. They already know how you’re going to react, because you’ve done it so many times before. In doing so, you become an enabler and through your own actions, you promote the negative behavior you want changed in the first place.

This can occur in any type of relationship. It’s more often associated with relationships that are impacted by addiction. But it can also occur in work situations with a boss, or co-worker. Continue reading

Today’s Tarot Meditation Drawing: King of Swords

King of Swords

Mystic Faery Tarot by Linda Ravenscroft

That thorn in your side will be poking at you all day. But don’t let them gain control over your emotions and push you into a fight. Keep control over your anger, as theirs rises and you will be the one to win the war, not only the battle. It’s for them to depart from your path, but you may not be the one controlling that option. So don’t fall into their trap and cause you to be the one who is escorted off the battlefield first!

Additional Insight:
The ‘umpire’ usually see the retaliation long after the initial attack. And the victim is often the one thrown off the field. Don’t let that happen to you. No matter how hard your adversary pushes you today, walk away and don’t allow them to control the situation. Turning your back on them is the best way to get under their skin and cause their anger to blow out of control where the umpires will take notice and escort them not only off the field, but out of the building as well. You can end the day with a well deserved and much needed victory of relief; if ONLY you keep your cool and maintain control over your emotions!

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