Don’t be afraid or angry about explaining your decisions, they were yours to make in the first place. While you may not have taken the advice of those in your life, they must remember it IS your life and you must be the one to live it. But if you show a little compassion toward their hurt feelings and offer your reasoning behind your decision. They don’t have to agree with you, but they should respect your choice. If they can’t do that, then maybe they have ulterior motives that they’re not being forthcoming about. Ask them.
Hurt feelings aside, you can’t please everyone and you can’t run your own life according to someone else’s assumptions and expectations. They are not the one who has to live with the consequences for the rest of your life. But don’t get angry and offended if they’re upset that you asked for their advice and didn’t take it. They could be upset because they care so much about you. So try to be calm and compassionate. Explain why you made your choice and why it was important to you. If they can’t live with your decision, than accept that and walk away. Don’t give into their demands. Who knows, they might be right. But you’ll learn lessons as you pursue your dreams and goals. Be true to yourself and you’ll have no regrets over the woulda-shoulda-couldas.
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