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What Creates A Successful Union

Respectful Love

Respectful Love

Respectful Commitments
While I’m waiting for scans to run on my laptop, I was reminded of what makes a relationship work. It can be applied to any relationship, but in particular to intimate relationships. Whither it’s a marriage or a long-term partnership, you can’t sustain any relationship for the long haul without respect.

When I officiate a wedding, a handfasting, or any commitment ceremony, I always include this:
“A marriage cannot exist and thrive without mutual respect. Respect of ideas, feelings and expressions of conscious and desire. Without respect you cannot support each others dreams, or care for one another in sickness. You cannot share the intimacy of your love, or honor the sacrifices you each will make to sustain your partnership and your family. Respect will maintain your love for one another even when those moments of dissatisfaction arise and angry words are spoken.”

Respect will pull you together in times of stress and struggle. Instead of pushing you apart and creating dissatisfaction, blame and anger that can tear your love apart. It creates a united front based on support and wanting to overcome the challenges life can throw at you. Working together and holding each other up when one of you loses the energy to fight sustains your strength as a partnership. Reminding each other that “we will be ok” goes a long way to helping each of you to fight another day and triumph over adversity.

But respect also works when times are good. When you’re walking down the street and feel the pull to walk arm in arm. For the 20year relationship that sits at a restaurant and still reaches across the table to touch each others hand. It reminds you of why you fell in love in the first place and promotes those soft intimate moments to rub a shoulder, or caress a knee when laughter overcomes you both. Respect is what’s needed for any long-term relationship of love. When you respect your partner, nothing can pull you apart.

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© 2016 Springwolf, D.D., Ph.D. Springwolf Reflections / Springs Haven, LLC. All Rights Reserved.

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Today’s Tarot Meditation Drawing: Knave of Wands – Inverted

Knave of Wands - Inverted

Mystic Faery Tarot by Linda Ravenscroft

Don’t allow despair to eat away at your ambition and desire for self-sufficiency. The darkness isn’t as bleak as you’re making it out to be. Even in darkness there’s magik and creative energy to tap into. But if you dwell on the negative, you’ll miss the beauty and peace that can inspire and strengthen your ambition to succeed.



Additional Insight:

The darkness brings sparkling stars, the fiery beauty of meteors, the beauty of moon flowers, the peace and tranquility of the world at rest and the excitement and joy of night time creature visitations. If all you see is the darkness, it won’t matter if it’s day or night. You can still stumble and fall into the pits of despair and dig a hole deeper than anyone can escape from. But if you align your consciousness with the vibrant energies of the Divine, then even in the darkness you can see the beauty around you and allow it to inspire your ability to innovate, adapt, overcome and succeed.

Allow yourself to believe you can be self-reliant and you deserve self-sufficiency. You’ve worked hard, you’ve earned the right, and you have succeeded where others have failed around you. See, you’re already making a difference in your life, all you need to do now is believe in yourself and take the next steps to making it happen!

Try this affirmation for the week:
“I am at peace and aligned with the Divine spirit.  I allow my divine energy to create, innovate, adapt and overcome any obstacle with compassion and love. I AM self-reliant and successful.”

© 2012 Springwolf, D.D., Ph.D. Springwolf Reflections / Spring’s Haven, LLC. All Rights Reserved.

Holding Respect With Love

Imitate Nature's RespectThe Key To Successful Relationships

It seems today that our society has created an environment that makes it near to impossible for people to find deep loving and long lasting relationships. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) tracks marriage and divorce rates in the U.S.

In 2002 Report 23, Number 22 they presented one of the last statistical reviews of American marriages. Among the findings in the report: unmarried co-habitations overall are less stable than marriages.  The probability of a first marriage ending in separation or divorce within 5 years is 20 percent, but the probability of a premarital cohabitation breaking up within 5 years is 49 percent. After 10 years, the probability of a first marriage ending is 33 percent, compared with 62 percent for co-habitations.

But they don’t explain what happens to second marriages or co-habitations. I personally fall in that category and I’d be interested in knowing what the statistics show. We’ve been together 10years and we have a son. We have no plans on changing our co-habitation into a legal marriage. We had that license in the first relationships and both of those failed. Maybe they’ll cover that in the next decade. Continue reading