What one person views as confidence, another person will view as arrogance. It’s a fine line that doesn’t exist on a set standard or a measuring tape or in the levels on a scale. It’s not a tangible thing that can be measured for everyone to share and compare. Because it’s based on perspective and everyone’s perception is different.
How you see yourself and your abilities will determine where that measuring stick is for you. Let’s give our stick a range of 1 to 10.
If you hold confidence in yourself, and believe in your abilities, your skill and experience than the bar for achieving arrogance will be set pretty high. Let’s put it around a level of 9 on the arrogance chart.
Consequently, if you’re someone who has self doubts in any or your abilities, skill, knowledge or experience, then your bar for achieving arrogance will be set lower. Let’s put that one at level 6 on the arrogance chart.
If you have self doubts, your always questioning your abilities, skill, knowledge or experiences and you’re unsure if you can do something successfully, then you may have serious confidence issues. Let’s put that down at level 3 on our arrogance chart. Continue reading →
The Wise Old Wolf : A Healthy Ego Allows You To Be You
Is The Ego Bad?
Today I saw one of those inspirational FB images and it brought up a thought that I face every week during counseling. It was titled “Overcoming Your Ego” and listed several steps to accomplish that. From my perspective, the steps were overcoming arrogance, or egotism, not ego and that’s an important difference.
The word “ego” has been used as a metaphysical term to describe the self for centuries. By definition it is: the “I” or self of any person; a person as thinking, feeling, willing, and distinguishing itself from the selves of others and from objects of its thought. ~Dictionary.com
A healthy ego, allows you to be who you are as an individual. It also allows you to be you and let’s you respect others for who and what they are as well. Continue reading →
Dalai Lama on Piers Morgan Tonight April 25, 2012: “I describe myself as a simple Buddhist monk. No more, no less. And I am one of the seven billion human being. Basically we are the same… your emotion, my emotion, your mind, my mind.., same physical. So I always look [at it] that way. We are the same.”
Believe In Yourself
What is a healthy ego? Today when someone mentions the ego it’s usually in a negative connotation. It is the “I” or self of any person. It is the “I” person as thinking, feeling, and willing, and distinguishing itself from the selves of others and from objects of its thought. “I” think, therefore “I” am. It is the self-esteem and inner confidence of “me”.
A healthy ego doesn’t need to be right all the time. One can be a confident person and accept the idea that they don’t know everything, but they’re willing to explore what they don’t know. They accept that others have differing views and they’re willing to learn about those views without worry or fear of losing what they believe. They are able to look at new information and data, research it, confirm or deny it and merge it into their own perspectives as appropriate, to broadening their understanding of the world, their spirit within and the Divine Universe around them. Continue reading →
Rest in the arms of your inner self and be at peace with your own self love. It’s not the approval of others, the pat on the head or the compassion from outside your self that you need today. It’s caring, compassion and less self judgement and criticisms that you should focus on. Today is your day to be your own best friend and remember how great of a friend you really are.
Don’t help others criticize you. You need someone to stand up for you and show compassion, understanding and support. There’s no one better to that than your own inner spiritual self. So show yourself some love, kindness and caring.
But don’t let your self love turn to arrogance and superior ego. Be cautious of how you express your confidence and strength in yourself. It’s a fine line sometimes; but no matter how you try to be humble, others will see arrogance while others see confidence. And often it’s not about ‘you’ but rather their own view and perspective of themselves.
I recently had a conversation with a group of people who became very..um..passionate in their discussion about beliefs.While some defined the discussion as a passionate debate, others more emotional, defined it as a heated argument. But what caused the difference of opinion and view of the discussion might be saying something about how we view ourselves as individuals. Are we confident about our position in the debate, or insecure?
Debate is a good thing most of the time. It’s an exchange of ideas, a challenge to linear thinking that may cause opposing sides to expand their views. It may even alter a long held perspective, directing it down different avenues of thought that never occurred to an individual before.
I’ve noticed, however, that many times, informal discussions evolve into passionate debates that eventually break down into heated arguments that leave one or both sides of the conversation with hurt feelings, angry emotions and sometimes long standing feuds between individuals.
And this is especially true if the discussions are about one of the three taboo subjects that you don’t discuss with family or at the dinner table: religion, politics or money!Continue reading →
Whether you want it or not, setting yourself up as an expert puts you in the role of a leader. Not everyone is cut out to lead and many don’t want this responsibility. But the moment you hang up your shingle and take on clients you are accepting the responsibilities of that role. So be prepared for it.
It doesn’t matter if you’re offering a single service, such as a psychic reader or holistic healer, even these one on one roles have a form of leadership. But the responsibilities of leadership are especially essential if you are taking on the role as teacher, guide or spiritual Minister/Priest/Priestess.
Don’t be afraid to apply the lessons you learned in other areas of your life to your spiritual profession. Whether you’re a house wife or a corporate professional, you have acquired skills that can be translated or transferred to your spiritual profession. Continue reading →