Don’t let the potential of getting hurt, keep you from opening your heart to love. Instead take a look within yourself and find what’s causing you to make bad choices? You might find that the issue is with your own thinking about what you deserve or can achieve.
We attract what we think and that includes what we think we deserve. Often times the cycle of bad relationships is nothing more than a reflection of how we view ourselves. When we see ourselves as lacking, not being good enough, being a bother, a handful or troublesome, we attract people with those traits and they always let us down.
The cycle creates a pattern and over time it alters our view we have of ourselves. We begin to believe that we don’t deserve the good life, or the good relationship we see others around us having. All that negative self talk attracts the exact opposite of what we want.
There’s no such thing as the perfect, always happy, always harmonious relationship. The truth is, people argue. How you argue and what you argue about is what makes the difference in making it work. Whither it’s your young and facing your first serious relationship, or it’s later in life and you’re going through changes and reflection, everyone has baggage to carry. Don’t put your issues on someone else’s shoulders and expect them to know how to deal with you by osmosis. You can’t read their mind, don’t expect them to be able to read yours either.
Relationships take work and effort to last. Dreaming about the perfect relationship is great, but only if you stop the negative talk within and work on your own baggage. No matter what you think your problems are, you are the one in control of them. If you don’t like something about yourself, then change it.
No matter what it is, you can find a way to make positive changes and become the person you’re looking to love. Love yourself and others will see what you have to offer that’s worth loving and worth partnering with to create the “perfect” relationship.
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