Showing compassion, concern and regret after the fact doesn’t alleviate the harm that was done. No matter where the directions come from, you are still the one responsible and in control of your actions. It’s better to deal with the consequences of saying “No” than it is being culpable in the offense from the start.
We’ve all done things we regret and many do their best to make up for it after the harm has occurred. Better to try to make amends for your part in the action, than to do nothing at all.
But the real issue is that the offense happened in the first place. Either from knee jerk reactions, built up anger, or more likely some form of fear. “What happens to me if I don’t do it?” is a poor excuse for going along with something you know to be wrong.
Paying the price up front by saying “No” or standing up to bullies who try to manipulate others for their own selfish means gains you much more than you will lose by going along with the harm.
Wounds will heal, but the scars they leave behind within the emotions and memories of those injured never go away. No matter how long they’ve been there, how much they’ve faded, the memory still exists. And from that moment on, the person who was wounded will always have a built-in reaction to anything similar to the harm you caused.
Don’t be the one who goes along with the crowd. Be the one who stands up for what’s right and says “No” in the face of harm. Allow yourself to be rewarded for being strong and brave in the face of hate, violence and anger. It might be the harder road at times, but in the end it’s the brighter path to tread.
Take time each day to align your thoughts and heart with the Divine presence in your life. When things occur you’ll be able to see the motives from a higher perspective. You’ll be able to tap into the strength that gives you the courage to say “No, that’s enough” or “I’m not going to let that happen”. Gain the positive karma that will carry you to the higher road of life and bless the path you walk with integrity, dignity and respect.
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