You don’t have to stand on your own. There are many supports that can help you balance your weight and carry the load. You may need to release some of that “I don’t need help” pride and lean on someone for a few weeks while you heal. But don’t look at this as a weakness on your part. Look at it as an opportunity you’re giving to someone else to learn the lessons of compassion, understanding and friendship.
Being hurt, whither it’s emotional or physical, is part of life. We all go through it and we all feel weak in the knees when it happens. There’s nothing to be embarrassed about nor is there anything to feel guilty or ashamed of. It happens.
We are judged more for how we deal with the hurt and heal through the injury. Do you accept the compassion and concern from others? Do you wallow in self-pity? Are you afraid to admit someone else was right and your rose-colored glasses were too dark to see the truth?
Or is your pride so great that you believe showing pain is a sign of weakness? Accepting help from someone isn’t who you are, because you’re the one who’s always there when others are in need? You might take a moment to remember that you’re only human and you’re not a super hero. Well at least not today.
We all need to lean on something from time to time. Be it a crutch, a cane or someone’s shoulder, or even a spiritual faith that holds us up and keeps us going. Having someone or something there to get you through the rough times also gives something to others. It gives them an opportunity for compassion and kindness.
If you’re not the one who is injured, but the one trying to help; remember that we all have pride. Those who are hurt are facing a multitude of lessons and issues. Your compassion maybe the only thing that’s keeping them standing. Don’t turn away when they say “No”. Give them some space, but stay there and be counted among those who put up with their whining, complaining and yes, even the lashing out. It’s not you’re really mad at anyway.
Lessons of unconditional love don’t come along all that often. When they do, make sure you’re accepting their gifts, good and bad to stand up and be there. Either you’ve been there in the past and it’s time to allow them to pay you back. Or they’ve been there for you and it’s time to give back what you had received. It’s a day of compassion; for everyone.
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