Show compassion and attention to those you care for. Don’t dismiss their feelings of insecurity and distress. They may seem like little things to you, but to them, it’s their whole world. They need you to be the rock, the pillar of strength and the one they can lean on and hear the words “It’s going to be ok”. Your reassurance will go a long way and a lot farther than you could imagine.
When you’re young, and that includes teenagers, or when you’re an elderly family member and you rely on others for your daily care, it’s easy to forget there are bigger issues in the world. In these perspectives, the world is what’s happening to you, at this moment in time. And when you feel insecure, the last thing you need is someone dismissing your emotions as silly or invalid.
Fear, insecurity or simple sadness doesn’t have to make sense or be logical. Sometimes we don’t understand why we’re feeling the way we are. That doesn’t mean those feelings aren’t real or justified. It simply means something in the Universe has touched something within their soul and that can be even more fearful.
It’s not easy taking care of others who are scared. They take their fear out on you and present an attitude instead of gratitude. Try not to let their discomfort push your buttons. Take their hand, even if you have to fight over it and give them comfort. Ask them what has them upset and then talk to them about it. You don’t have to solve the issue, that can make things worse in some cases. But everyone needs someone to talk to. Give them a hug or hold them if you can. Listen to them, ask them questions or tell them a similar story that happened to you at one time in your life. Let them feel your concern and care.
Fort those who are old enough, try to talk to them about the problem. Explain why they’re hurting, and you’ll take some of the fear away. Especially with young children who don’t understand how their body is connected. Why does their ear hurt when their nose is stopped up? Explaining how things work can ease their fear and show them you do understand what’s going on and you’re there to help.
How you show compassion will determine how difficult or easy it is to get through this weekend. They may not be the only ones suffering through the weekend. If you’re one of those feeling insecure and on edge, try not to take it out on those around you. Make sure you explain your feelings and don’t expect others to simply know how you feel. No one can read your mind and your feelings are not part of a game of charades. Communication and compassion are the big words for the weekend. Remember you get what you put out.
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