Don’t expect others to know you care simply by being present. It’s not the words that say I care, it’s the actions. Take some time to let those around you know you care about them and what they’re going through. Or you’re glad they’re in your life to share your experiences. Do something to back it up, because someone in your life is feeling neglected and under appreciated.
It’s the little things we do each and every day that show someone we care about them. Not the one or two big things we do once a year in February, or on an anniversary, or birthday.
Fixing her a cup of coffee in the morning and serving it with a kiss on the cheek. Putting a special snack in his brief case with a special note attached that says you’re thinking of him. Picking up their favorite drink at the gas station when you fill up on the way home. It’s the little things that remind others you’re glad they’re in your life.
But in this month of love, don’t forget that special someone isn’t the only person in your life. Those you work with might like to know they’re appreciated too. You can pick up a fruit platter on your way into work for a morning treat. Of course a box of donuts will do too. Or take your team out for lunch and say thanks for the help on this project, or that holiday display.
Sometimes the biggest gift you can give is some undivided attention. Actually listen to someone when they need a friend to talk to. Let them vent and get it out, so they can feel as if someone out there cares enough to “hear”. Put down the cell phone and stop texting other people when you’re with them. It’s not only respectful, it might also make someone feel like you actually want them around.
Think of the little things you wish someone would do for you, then turn around and do it for someone in your life. You might be surprised at how often your kind gestures will come back to you in return.
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