When you love with respect, everything else –
trust, intimacy, compassion, loyalty, laughter and happiness
– simply fall into place.
© 2015 Springwolf, D.D., Ph.D. Springwolf Reflections / Springs Haven, LLC. All Rights Reserved.
Relationships have their ups and downs and they all take work. No one is perfect, not even you. So stop holding your partner up to a standard that even you can’t meet. Those with long-term relationships learned to communicate with respect early on. Not with hurtful words of revenge. Change your tune and ring the bell of peace. You can resolve the problem, but only if you agree to work at putting respect back into the conversation.
Life is full of varying types of relationships and each one requires mutual respect to survive. Business partners, co-workers and even simple acquaintances require a measure of esteem to be productive. But those closest to you deserve your respectful consideration more than any other.
Many have tried to put words around what “Love” is or what it means. It’s compassion, its caring, it’s being there, it’s trust. All of that is true, but none of that means anything if it shares space with disdain. There’s only one word that describes a successful relationship, Respect.
Respect doesn’t wander. It doesn’t criticize or put down someone to friends or other family. It doesn’t disregard opinions, thoughts or dreams. it doesn’t walk away when one is in need of comfort. It doesn’t create a lack of confidence or re-enforce feelings of negative self-worth. And respect doesn’t judge or laugh at another in any way or from any subject or source.
Respect creates trust. It opens the door to the inner soul and allows others to bear their intimate secrets. It creates strength in partnerships because nothing is hidden. Nothing can be taken for granted and nothing outside the relationship can be manipulated by others. It builds a bond that cannot be undone, because all things are on the table and shared equally. Continue reading →