Are you feeling overwhelmed because so many things are up in the air and out of your control? Then stop trying to control everything and allow yourself to focus on what’s important to you and within your control. Make a list and divide the tasks by what you have control over and what you don’t. Then prioritize what you can handle and what you must wait on. Start on the list you have control over and what’s the most important priority.
The more you try to control around you, the more you’ll lose. Stop trying to be all things to all people. Stop trying to control every aspect of your world, you can’t and you’ll only drain your resources for what’s really important.
Sometimes you simply have to learn to say “no”. You’re not everyone’s Mom. You’re not everyone’s SuperMan. But you’ve become so used to doing things for everyone else, you’ve lost sight of what’s your responsibility and what’s within your purview.
Today simply say “Stop. I have to get organized and figure out what I have to do before I can “do” for anyone else”. Whether it’s taking care of your kids, or family first or dealing with some paperwork you’ve been ignoring. Write out your lists and then set priorities for them. Which are important vs. which are imperative. Which have immediate deadlines and which can be postponed to help you take care of other things that are more important.
In today’s world of instant gratification, we’ve lost sight and control over time management. Don’t be one of the statistics that fall into the new instantaneous demands and practice patience. If that means others have to learn patience, then so be it. It will probably do them good too.
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