Sometimes seeing the small things means you’re missing the bigger picture. Everyone reacts to immense stress in different ways. Some run away, some retreat within, some fall apart before your eyes and others throw themselves into what’s before them and block out the situations causing anxiety. Don’t judge others by what YOU do. It’s not fair to them, or you.
Giving up is not the answer. But there are many ways people try to handle the challenges in life, and do so in a way that they’re not taking it out on those around them. Going within may help some regain control of their emotions so they can stand up another day. Running away for a few hours each week, can help others replenish their strength. Shutting out the world and falling into a book, game, or even TV can help some block out the stress for a little while.
Stomping around the house, yelling at others, slamming doors and dishes might be your way to release stress. But in doing so, you spread the anger around and cause others to feel targeted.
There is no set standard for how someone is “supposed” to act in order to deal with the trials they face. And everyone has their own way of handling anxiety that may not appear to be normal. The problem with this perspective is that people assume others have faced the same issues in life that they have and therefore expect them to act a certain way and as they would.
You don’t know what has occurred in someone’s life. The trials, tragedies or events that crossed their path maybe totally different from your own. Even the same events can cause different levels of anxiety in one person compared to another because of spiritual karma. Each person is unique and deals with all events in life, good, bad and indifferent based on their experiences, present and past.
Instead of being harsh, looking down on others because they aren’t reacting the way you think they should, or want them to; try compassion. Let those you care about know you’re there and you do care. Don’t bait them into an argument. Don’t push them into talking if they’re not ready to. Remember everyone needs human contact and a feeling of connection. A simple caress of a shoulder, a hand on the small of their back as you walk together, holding hands, or a hug can speak volumes when there’s no words to be said.
Researchers at Brigham Young University (BYU) in Provo, Utah, conducted a meta-analysis of published studies and found that having social ties with friends, family, neighbors and colleagues can improve our odds of survival by 50 per cent. You can read about their study online in a paper published in the July 2010 issue of PLoS Medicine – “Social Relationships and Mortality Risk: A Meta-analytic Review” by Julianne Holt-Lunstad, Timothy B. Smith, and J. Bradley Layton.
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I attract and acquire more happiness and financial abundance than I know what to do with!
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