What’s good for the Goose is good for the Gander. Remember, relationships are about give and take. Don’t be the side that only takes and gives nothing back. Words are wonderful things, but they only have meaning when they’re backed up with actions. The key to a long lasting relationship is holding the utmost respect for the one you’re with. Even when they’re not there with you.
Love is expressed through action, not just through words. And there are many ways to express the love you have for your partner and family. Cleaning the kitchen, doing the laundry, taking out the trash and changing the oil in the car are all examples of the little things we do for each other because we care and we love our partners.
You don’t have to bring home flowers, or go out to a fancy dinner to show your partner you love them. A simple touch on the shoulder, a hug at night before bed, even a phone call during the day simply to say “I needed to hear your voice” can go a long way to making your relationship filled with passion.
How you talk to and about your partner, whether in person or behind their back to others defines your relationship. If you put them down to your friends, they will develop opinions about your partner and treat them accordingly when they meet. They can either look down upon them, or they can hold them up with regard and kindness. But remember how you speak of them, will set up how they speak of you. Sometimes even if the “talk” is only in your head.
It goes a long way to showing your kids you care too. A note in their lunch box to let them know you’re proud of them will fill their day with pride. Having dinner at the kitchen table and not in front of the TV can make a big difference too.
It’s not the big things we do that say “I love you”. It’s the things you do for them when they’re not standing next to you. The right choices you make for your partnership. The words you say to others about them, behind their back. It’s all the little daily things that show it’s from the heart that matter.
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