Life takes a lot of give and take. You’ve gotten used to the giving. Or in some cases losing what you’ve worked hard for. Time to stop that downhill snowball and welcome the unexpected gifts back into your life. In some cases though, you need to find out what strings are attached. And if anything is expected of you in return, you need to refuse acceptance.
Someone may honestly be trying to give you something, to let you know there are still good people who care about others. Be gracious and welcome their kindness. You’re not doing yourself any favors by trying to be courageous and refusing a gift. Even if you think it’s all someone else has and they don’t need to be giving it to you. Refusing would be a slap in the face and you certainly don’t want that. Swallow your pride and let someone help you! You deserve it too!!
In other cases, someone might be using your struggle as leverage hidden in a surprise. Those people have ulterior motives and want you on their side without having a real concern for you. Or what might happen to you as a result of their “gift”. Be cautious of those “too good to be true” offers.
Remember, loyalty is earned, it’s not given because someone is in a position to give you something they think they can use to manipulate you over time. Retain your self-esteem and control over your own life, learn how to say “No”. It might take you a little longer to get where you’re going, but you will get there. And more importantly, you’ll have the respect and reputation you deserve. Not the disdain and lack of confidence that comes with the gift that has strings attached.
Consider the reputation of the person or people giving you this surprise. Make sure you take time to think over any offers that come your way. Make up something to give yourself more time if needs be. Say you need to talk to your partner, or just let me think about it overnight. Just because everyone is standing around, don’t feel you have to give an answer right here and now.
By evening you should be able to clearly think about what has been put on the table. Be logical about it and make a list of pros and cons. It may sound silly, but it’s a good way to layout a list in front of you. You’ll be able to go back and forth, cross things off, add things and have a clear picture of what’s what.
Once you make your decision, listen to your gut. You know the right answer for you. You knew it when the gift was presented to you earlier in the day. Listen to your inner voice and allow that gut feeling to keep you out of harms way. Play the “what if” game and look into the future. If you don’t like what you see, your answer should be clear. Trust your instincts, they’re really trying to help you down the easy road that brings peace of mind, less struggle and success with respect.
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