Don’t poke the Giant. You may not want to be on the receiving end of ‘his’ temper. Being the comedian that gets everyone laughing isn’t a good thing when it’s at the expense of someone else. What you think is a funny story, may be a stressful and emotional touchy subject for others. Show a little compassion even though you don’t understand what’s going on. You’ll gather more attention and more appreciation by being understanding and kind.
If you’re the one hosting the party this year, you are responsible for making everyone feel comfortable. But that doesn’t mean you’re the scheduled entertainment, so don’t feel that you have to be on stage lifting everyone’s spirit too. You can provide the stage, but everyone else has to make the choice on their own to entertain themselves.
This time of year isn’t easy for everyone. Part of helping others feel comfortable at your gathering is showing them compassion and helping them control their own emotions. Letting them know you noticed their struggle is all you need to do. Don’t make them share their story if they don’t want to. But let them know you’re available if they want to talk discreetly and in total confidence. No matter what, don’t be the town crier with their story. You’ll only make things worse!
And if you’re the one who is struggling in the crowd, snap out of it. You’ve been included because people care about you and they want you to be part of their gathering. Pushing everyone away is the total opposite of what you want and more importantly what you need. You control how you feel and react to situations. Don’t put that responsibility on others. No one can “make” you upset. Only YOU can make that choice. Choose to be happy and to ignore the negative. Shield your energies and make the choice to be happy and enjoy the event.
When everyone faces the crowd with respect and compassion, a good time will be had by all in an environment of safety and security. This isn’t a time of competition, or one up-manship. Even during a friendly competition of ugly sweaters, or tacky gifts, it’s about having fun, not winning. Don’t let your need to be the best in the crowd alter your mood or sense of security and confidence. You’re already great. When you hold that perspective of yourself, others will see it and hold it too.
Remember you have nothing to prove to anyone but yourself. Nor do you need approval from others to justify your own views or beliefs. And your views should not be the burden of others to carry for you. Don’t take the bait and join in the fight, and there will be no war.
Tis the season of joy and happiness. Make the choice to have fun and be part of the party. Stop allowing others to control your emotions and feel empowered over you because they “made” you feel sad or put down and insecure.
Take control over your own reactions and decide for yourself how you’re going to feel and the mood you’re going to carry through the day. Will you be compassionate and supportive? Will you be happy and share the joy of the season? You’re the only one who can make that decision and carry it out. Make the one that’s right for you and allow yourself to be empowered in your own skin.
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