Everyone has their own way of doing things. Don’t get upset when someone does it in a different way than you do. It works for them and after all they’re responsible with getting it done. You don’t have to be in total control of everything. If you want help, let go a little and give others the freedom to assist you in their way. It will still get done.
Micro-managing is never a good thing. It’s a sign of disrespect and shows others that you don’t trust them or that you don’t trust in their abilities to help you. No organization, be it business or personal, can survive in that kind of environment. The problem isn’t within others to do the job, it’s within you at being controlling. So stop it!
There are many ways of doing things. Even things that have step by step procedures have slight variations in how they can be implemented. Stop focusing on the micro-details in someone else’s tasks and pay attention to what you need to get done. Delegation means letting someone else be in charge of getting a task done. So let them do it and you go on to your own thing.
It’s not helpful to you or someone else when you stand over their shoulder and watch them perform the task you need them to do for you. What’s the point in attaining their help? Hand over the task and walk away. It’s ok to check in with them after lunch. But until then, let go of the concern and trust that they are more than capable of doing what you’ve asked them to do.
Moms & Dads, give out the chores, set a time limit for completion and walk away. More times than not, it’s best to put those chores in writing with the final time of day that they’re to be completed. Let your family take care of their responsibilities in their time and in their way. Not only will you build trust and respect, you’ll instill accountability as well. And if something doesn’t get done perfectly by your standard, try not to get angry. Telling your family “thank you, I appreciate the help” goes a lot further than yelling about the corner of the living room that didn’t get vacuumed. Instead, simply say “Thank you for helping, you did a decent job. Can you get this corner over here and this spot under that chair too. I know it doesn’t need to be perfect, but I really need those areas cleaned a little more please.” then walk away!
How you speak to others and how you ask for help will always set up the response you receive from those who are helping you. Don’t put down their efforts that have been completed so far. Never say “good job, but”. That last part of the sentence is all they’ll remember and they’ll lose respect for you, (if they ever had any) because you didn’t show respect to them. Appreciate the effort, even if the effort isn’t what you would have done. Give them another chance to try again and complete the task.
Remember what you put out you will receive back. Be careful how you communicate this week. Show respect and you’ll receive respect. Give someone a chance to handle responsibility and they’ll show you they can be responsible. Simply give them the freedom to do it their way and you might end the day pleasantly surprised and even a little proud.
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