Don’t put yourself in a glass bubble that keeps the world out. You’re not only keeping out those you need to be at arms distance, but you’re also keeping out those you need to be close to you right now. Not everyone you know or who’s in your circle of acquaintances or friends, have your best interests in their mind. So be careful who you do let in. You may have more privacy and trust with someone you barely know, than with those who claim to be your friend. Be cautious who you share your secrets with!
Some people will listen to your story and not realize this is information not to be shared! Others may weed their way into your day in an attempt to gather information so they can be the town crier and gain the attention of others. They want to appear to be the person that’s “in the know”, the “go to person” when outsiders are trying to find out what’s really going on behind closed doors.
Of course it’s none of their business and right now, your mental state is raw and on edge. Trying to get into some manageable form of normalcy is difficult because so many people are asking questions and being nosy more than they are being a friend. Well tough noogies for them! If you don’t trust them, don’t share anything with them. Don’t live by their rules. It’s your life.
If you’re not sure who to trust, than trust only your most closest allies. Even if that’s only one person. If you feel their view is biased because they’re so much a part of your life, then you might try finding a Minister (of any faith) who will speak with you in strict confidence. Or find a counselor who will give you some time and let you share your story. I’ve known Pagans who have gone to a Catholic Church during confession hours and talked to a priest because they needed someone to talk to, someone who would listen and hold those moments in the utmost secrecy.
Sometimes people we don’t know, but whose profession is predicated on trust and confidentiality, can provide a clearer insight into the issues or stresses we face. You could use an unbiased view right about now. There are plenty of people around you giving meaningless advice. Thank them and let them know you appreciate their suggestion. They’re really trying to help, even if you didn’t ask for it.
And if you’re the one who’s offering advice, remember unsolicited advice is always self-serving! You don’t have to share your thoughts about what YOU would do in order to help. Some times, simply listening and letting someone you care about express their anxiety out in words, can be more help than you may ever realize. Sometimes we just need to talk it out, and decide for ourselves what we need to do next.
Hiding and keeping yourself locked in only allows your hurt feelings and inner thoughts race to extremes and imagine the worst. Dwelling on the negative will only attract more of the same into your day. Take a deep breath. Close your eyes and imagine your bubble as a clear pink sphere of love and compassion. Bask in the calm serenity and love yourself. Stop being so hard on yourself. And then reach out to that one person you can trust the most. Everything is moving forward as it needs to. Be patient a little while longer and you’ll see that things have been blown out of proportion and you’re going to be ok! Really, you are.
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