The only reason to look back is to see where mistakes were made and learn from them. Stop beating yourself up over what should have been, but wasn’t. The guilt will not move you forward, nor will it allow you to be free of the past. Get over it and start making the right moves forward.
You can’t change the past. All you can do is change the way you allow the past to affect your present and your future. – Springwolf
We all have done things we wish we hadn’t done, or had done differently. Feeling guilty over the choices you made will not make a difference for tomorrow. The events behind you will still be there and still be in the same context as they were then. Beating yourself up about it will not change anything.
But learning from the lesson and applying that knowledge to choices in the here and now will make a difference. It will help you let go and move forward with greater understanding and wisdom. Where as the guilt is only an anchor holding you in the past and doomed to repeat the lessons you’re to learn.
If you feel you must apologize to someone, or try to make amends, write them a letter or call them on the phone. And if you feel you can’t do that, write the letter anyway and hold a private ceremony to connect with them through the Divine spirit in your life. Sending energy of sorrow for the pain you caused, and forgiveness for the actions taken; safely set your letter on fire and allow the words to be carried upon the smoke to the intended recipient.
Remember, forgiveness isn’t for others; it’s for you to let go and move on from the past mistakes that keep you chained in the negativity that no longer belongs in this moment. Let it all go and be free to face the bright light of the future again.
Further Reading: A Letting Go Meditation
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