Show compassion, caring and love to the child within. Don’t be so hard on yourself for your knee jerk reactions. They have been formed for years and take time, healing and effort to overturn and change. Don’t judge yourself or others too harshly and make sure you know all the facts, not just the headlines or the talking points.
Make sure you understand all sides of the issue before you start placing blame or judging others. This is especially true when reviewing your own actions and responses to daily situations and encounters. Sometimes things seem as though they’re an attack, when in reality they were simple issues that were made bigger because of your past experiences with others.
Don’t apply the actions of the past onto the relationships you have today. You’re not the same person within, and they may not even be the same person you’re dealing with today. So just because someone in your past hurt you deeply; doesn’t mean the person you’re with now is trying to do the same thing.
Sharing understanding, compassion and especially caring communication with yourself and those around you are the key to understanding. Take some time to calm down, and then talk it out. You’ll be better for it and so will they.
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