Righteousness will not win friends or influence people. There are many perspectives to choose from that are equally valid to yours. Today, it’s important to allow others to make their own choices. Even if you see the pitfalls or mistakes that may come their way, don’t assume they’re going to happen because they happened to you. You’re not the only one with the answers. Be supportive, without being critical or demanding.
Even though you may have done something similar at one time in your life, your way and your experience isn’t the only one out there. Righteous indignation will kill the opportunity every time! Things have changed, others have gone through different situations and picked up different tricks. There’s a chance to share what you learned, but remember you didn’t learn it all and discover every nuance of the venture.
It’s important not to put others down for the choices they’ve already made. Be supportive even if you don’t agree with what they have done or the way they have done it. They may have succeeded in areas where you failed. Or they discovered another processes to get to the other side that incorporated different aspects that you didn’t think of.
Remember the person who thinks they know it all and who believes they are the only one who knows what “must” be done, knows nothing. That inflexibility to try the ideas of others or open up to new ideas or ways of thinking will create strife and anxiety. Continue reading